Work hard to show the results of your salvation, obeying God with deep reverence and fear. For God is working in you, giving you the desire and the power to do what pleases him. Philippians 2:12b-13 (NLT)

Many problems in life arise when we confuse boundaries of responsibility — we are to love one another, we cannot be one another. My responsibility is to bless you, but I cannot control you. I am responsible only for my conduct, my obedience, my surrender to God. I can advise and encourage you in your walk with God, but how you listen to and obey God is your responsibility. But thanks be to God, He has empowered each of us to walk with Him in love and obedience.